Your Moving On The Break Up Is Over

Your Moving On The Break Up Is Over



Sometimes moving on (break up, loss or other major change) is difficult. It’s
rarely easy unless you’re so glad to get out of a situation that you can’t wait
to make changes and move on. A break up disrupts your whole life. Everything you
do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many mutual friends, even
going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult.



One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you’re ready to move on is your
family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you’re going to get
tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that you’re
moving on, break up is over, and that you don’t appreciate constantly being
reminded of your ex and the past relationship.



Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing
up the person in the hopes that you’ll get back together. You can just explain,
“Moving on, break up is over, that’s that.” Eventually they’ll come around
because they’re your family and they love you. It’s probably going to be harder
to deal with when it comes to your friends.



If you didn’t have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem. But
if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going
alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while.
And then there’s the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends,
too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with
your mutual friends. This doesn’t mean that it’s necessary when you’re moving on
break up with your friends. It’s just simply going to be more difficult to
maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.



As difficult as it seems, when you say, “Moving on, break up is history,” you
may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to
keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just
try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you’re closest to and
allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, it’s
probably easiest on everyone because they don’t have to choose which of you to
be loyal to and which to avoid.



Sometimes the “moving on break up” period is just too difficult when you’re
surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If possible, go
on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a vacation with
a friend who isn’t involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasn’t
friends with your ex. This can help you get some perspective. Once you’ve
declared, “moving on; break up over” then if you can take some time away it can
help you a great deal.

Liz Johnson is the owner of Magicof-MakingUp.com and the author of several
articles concerning the many relationship problems faced by couples everyday.
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